The Unspoken Compliment

When we put time and effort into something, we expect our men to notice. Is that too much to ask? The task was a big deal to us, so we assume that it will be a big deal to them. After all, remember, men like to receive praise and acknowledgment for their accomplishments, so why should we be any different?

This is where that Golden Rule principle comes back into play. We would think that they would treat us the same way they would want to be treated. If they had spent all day on a task, they would want us to notice and praise them for it, right? But there seems to be a disconnect when the roles are reversed.

As for us, remember that we have issues with setting expectations. When we don't get the reaction we are hoping for, we feel slighted, disappointed, and even angry. What we fail to take into consideration, however, is that even though our husbands often fail to take notice of our efforts and achievements, they don't usually take note of our lack of achievement either.

Ladies, instead of focusing on all the times our men don't say what we want them to say, let's try focusing on all the times they don't say anything negative—especially those times when it would be appropriate and well-deserved. Let's take their silence as an unspoken compliment, and leave it at that.

First Peter 4:8 tells us, And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. Are you allowing your love for your husband to cover his mistakes?

Love overlooks faults and forgives when mistakes are made. Keep that in mind the next time your husband fails to offer a compliment.

***Excerpt from What Happened to Prince Charming? - Ten Tips To Achieve a Happy Marriage Life and Live Happily Ever After